When choosing a first-date spot, most people want somewhere that will not feel awkward.
That is why amusement parks, escape rooms, and activity-packed plans come to mind.
It can be a great choice. It is not a great choice for everyone.
Thrills can start a conversation
An exciting activity gives you things to talk about and leaves a shared memory.
A well-known psychology study on arousal and attraction is often used to make amusement parks sound like a dating formula. It did not measure first-date success or whether relationships lasted.
Thrills may open a conversation. They cannot replace getting to know the person in front of you.
Four things to check first
- Do they genuinely enjoy this activity?
- Will there be time to rest and talk?
- Could the budget or travel time burden either person?
- Can you change plans if one of you is uncomfortable?
The best first date is a place where both people can comfortably say, “I like this,” or “This is not really for me.”
An amusement park is only one option. A good date starts with listening to what each person likes.
Source: Dutton, D. G., & Aron, A. P. (1974). Some evidence for heightened sexual attraction under conditions of high anxiety. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 30(4), 510–517.